Who has 2 thumbs and no idea?? That would be me! I always thought I'd be married when I turned 18. Well, I'm 19 and not married or engaged. I'm not rushing it, I don't want to be married right now or in the next couple years anyways. I like my last name a lot and I'm not ready to change it yet.
However, this week I met someone that completely changed all my thinking on the whole subject. I know he probably won't ever read this (unless he gets a facebook), so I am going to be completely honest about the whole thing. I'm almost positive it will sound pretty mooshy-gooshy, falling-in-love stereo typical. I just need people's opinions on the 'situation' that may be playing itself out. So, if you would please message me your opinions, and not tell my dad if ya know him (its not his biz right now lol), I would greatly appreciate it! :)
So my new job consists of driving/delivering nice, newer cars to different car lots around Oregon, Idaho, Nor Cal, and Washington. My first day on the job was this last Tuesday. I had to take a car to Corvallis and we actually had to take 2 cars, so I followed my manager, Troy, over while he trailed the Mustang, and I drove an Armada. Then we had to go Lebanon and pick up another vehicle and stop by some other lots to talk about selling and buying vehicles. We'll we, Troy and I, decided it was cheaper to trailer the truck back than to pay for gas for both rigs and each drive.
So we loaded the truck onto the trailer, and after unsmashing the fender which was accidentally driven over when trying to straighten the truck on the trailer, we were headed home! It was about 7pm when we finally left Corvallis, so we grabbed dinner at Subway and hopped on the road for the trip home. We had fun comparing all the music we both enjoyed, sports we played and growing up on a farm.
I have known Troy for almost a year through my dad, who wrenches on Troy's vehicles, so I know he rides dirt bikes, enjoys racing motocross and has a pretty good head on his shoulders. My dad thinks pretty highly of him, so I knew the job would work out well as my dad trusts him quite a bit, and has no real reason to worry about anything.
After making finally making it to Bend about 10pm, we got stopped at a train and spent the next few minutes singing along with the radio. We made it through the crazy traffic caused by the train and went to the office, dropped off the rig and went our separate ways after a hug that lingered a little more than I thought normally would have. But I was tired so I didn't think anything of it and I headed home.
The next day, Wednesday, I caught myself thinking about the trip often and remembered that at all the car lots he introduced me to his friends as his new gal with a smile. It made me laugh, and at the same time it made me wonder what he was thinking. I mean, it wouldn't even be embarrassing to be in a relationship at all with him. He is really good looking, a genuinely nice guy, has a great job and is fun to be around. I know he likes teasing, a lot. So I kinda figured he was just trying to make things not as awkward for us.
Then last night I get a text from him asking me what I was doing, he kept texting me and kept a really good conversation going. He asked all kind of questions like what do I look for in a guy, what is the most important thing in a relationship and others along the same lines. So then I thought maybe he wasn't kidding around as much about the 'new gal' line. I still wasn't sure, but I was to much of a chicken to ask what he was thinking. We held a good conversation til about 1:30 this morning, when I fell asleep. I know he is going hunting this weekend so I texted him and to have a good weekend and try not to think about work! He said, "I will, and talk to ya monday".
Before I bore you to death, let me tell you the good, the bad and the ugly about him.
The Good: Has a job, Is a very hard worker, Good looking, Has a house, Has a dog (who means a lot to him), Stable emotionally, mentally and financially(even though that doesn't matter a lot, it means I wont be paying for him!) No kids, No crazy ex's, No extra baggage, Works out, Isn't afraid to try new things, Will be retired by the time he is 55
The Bad: He is an admitted work-a-holic, Not much taller than me(which is fine, I don't know what his religion is(I forgot to ask)
The Ugly: There is nothing really bad that I have seen yet.
So your probably thinking, 'Silly Emily, He seems like a nice guy and if your happy, then that's what matters most.'
Well, there is more. No, he was never a girl, he isn't gay, he isn't bi... none of that...it's the fact that he just turned 30...Now before you slam the brakes and say 'NO WAY!' Hear the rest of my side.
He is totally the kind of person I see myself with for the rest of my life. He has outgrown all the drama that comes with guys up to age 23. He is funny, realistic and sensible. Loves to laugh, which I love, and he likes making jokes and isn't afraid to crack a dirty one once in awhile. Also, he has a lot of life experience, which I do also. I've been told I'm more mature than a lot of other 19/20 year old people. I can hold my own, I could move out on my own right now and I'm pretty sure I could make it without to many problems. He rides dirt bikes, he enjoys it, he really enjoyed working on them. He is mechanically inclined. Also, he reminds me a lot of my dad, but only the good qualities.
He and I are not running to Reno next week or next month to get married or anything of the sort. Heck, we are still just plain ol' friends. Not even best friends. I am just thinking ahead to what might be in the future if anything comes of those text's from last night. I know that if a relationship did play itself out, it could seem awkward at times with our ages. But it really isn't that much difference. It just sounds funny when I am 19 and he is 30, and it sounds totally OK if I am 25 and he is 35.
I'm not planning on moving in with him anytime soon. I'm not planning anything. Just a friendship with the possibility of a casual relationship.
I would LOVE to hear your opinion on this, please make sure its a message though :)
Thanks for reading! I'm trying hard to keep up on this, but having 2 jobs and any type of normal life is almost impossible :)
-Emily <3
